I think this is the most important thing in this world, after being healthy, of course. Why? Because your parents form you and your personality. We can discuss the definition of “nice”, as that differs, but for me, nice means they are reliable and they are there for you when you need them the most.
I am one of the lucky few who has not only nice, but also great parents. I know that my mum and dad would die for me. I know that, because they do everything for me. I can’t imagine better parents than these two. I am sorry mum and dad, most of the time, I can’t say how much I love you as that is hard for me as a “man”, but please believe me: I adore you guys. You are the perfect example of how I see my future with my wifey. Okay, you have your ups and downs, but who hasn’t, right? The respect and love you have for each other is just magnificent. Even though you have bad days, you stay loyal to each other. You can trust each others integrity, loyalty and love for each other, which makes it easy to endure the lesser days.
I am proud of you. Sometimes you guys make me mad, sometimes you make me sad, but I couldn’t wish for better parents. You always told me to follow my heart and to do whatever I need to do to be happy. I am doing this, believe me. You have teached me to be tolerant, to be smart and to be a man with dignity and pride. I couldn’t pay you back, but I know you will be fulfilled when you know I am all happy.
It doesn’t matter where I am: I could be in a foreign country or just with you: the feeling remains the same.
Good parenting starts with being relaxed and open to your kids. They should listen first, instead of judging or whatever. Hitting or shouting isn’t the best way to treat kids, especially not when they are young. Beside that, I think it’s important to understand that kids grow older and they eventually mature. Mature “kids” mean they can decide what they want, without needing consent. I remember my parents, 5 or 6 years ago, saying they wouldn’t want me to leave them, but since three years or so they have changed because they know they can’t stop a mature person of doing what they need to do. They respect that now and even say it without me having to ask for it. Why? Because they are intelligent people who know that some things just can’t be blocked. A couple of days ago they even said I should go now, haha. Just beautiful.
This is one of the many reason why I love you so much. You can put your own egos aside and just be happy for your own son / daughter, because knowing they are happy, they become happy themselves. My mother always said to me I will understand her much better when I get kids myself. She says that she thinks about everything, except herself, because we are the most precious things in her life. How can I not love you, woman?
I will be there for my kids as well. Whenever they need me, whenever they want me and whenever they think all is lost; I will be there. I will be just like my dad: honourable, respected, protective, relaxed, smart and someone who thinks for their children first. Being a dad is something I really want, because I think I will enjoy it more than anything else I did before. Thank you for giving me the strength, a nice example and the power to do so.
Wait for me, kids!